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Need an Apology?
May 8 @ 9:30 am - 11:30 am$20 – $40
with Rick Longinotti, MFT
Offering an Apology; Composing the Apology You Didn’t Get
In this session we’ll explore how to offer an apology “in giraffe”, rather than conventional apologies that are unsatisfying. The giraffe apology is an expression of sadness that our behavior affected the other person in a painful way. Our regret won’t be twinged with self-justification if we feel empathy for ourselves first. We need to clear away feelings of guilt or self-loathing. Our apology allows space for the other person to describe how our behavior impacted them. If desired, we are open to explaining to the other person what led us to the behavior.
Eve Ensler never got an apology from her father who abused her as a child. So she wrote herself one. Her book, The Apology, is written as if from her father, who is now deceased. A surrogate apology can be healing. If participants are interested, Rick will play the role of a person who you wish could apologize to you.