Rick Longinotti
About Rick Longinotti

I have been a licensed marriage and family therapist since 2007. Since 2006 I’ve led Nonviolent Communication workshops for couples, along with my wife, Aviva. People appreciate that I bring the real challenges that my wife and I have experienced in our many years together.  Read more.

“My partner and I loved the couple’s class with Rick. We were going through a hard time, and knew we needed to learn some more effective communication skills. We got what we had hoped for and have been able to integrate what we learned. We felt safe and relaxed in the group and with Rick. It’s made a huge difference in the quality of our connection. We would highly recommend this class to other couples!

For 2024, I will lead a book study/practice using That Loving Feeling, A Couples Guide to Transform Hurt & Criticism into Kindness & Gratitude


Our relationships keep getting caught in the same traps of hurt and defensiveness. Empower yourself to break loose from those habits, starting with the powerful tool of self-empathy. I like how Terry Real puts it, “Loving yourself is the capacity to hold yourself warmly and tenderly in the face of your screw ups and imperfections.”

  • With a deep appreciation of ourselves, we can more easily find understanding for our partner’s screw ups and imperfections.
  • We can make requests of our partner that are free from subtle guilt or blame.
  • We develop the capacity to say “no” with compassion and say “yes” with real affirmation rather than a sense of obligation.

Our kindness towards ourselves spills out towards our partner. The things that used to annoy us loosen their grip on us. We experience a spirit of mutual generosity: giving and receiving for the fun of it.

During this online workshop I will invite you to participate in role plays and exercises. Please feel free to pass when it does not feel comfortable.

Nonviolent Communication, developed by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, is the best program I’ve experienced for couples. It moves us past assigning blame, and onto appreciating our needs and our partner’s needsd and how to meet them.


Click here to download the course syllabus